CHILDREN & SELF-ESTEEM

ParentLink, 4-H/Youth Development, University of Missouri-Columbia

Children begin to develop a sense of who they are very early in life. Babies quickly learn about themselves by how people respond to them and see them. By about 18 months of age, children are able to understand that they are unique individuals. Parents and other caregivers who interact positively with children from the start help children to develop a healthy self-esteem.

What do children need to develop a healthy self-esteem?

~ Commitment from adults who care for and believe in them;

~ Communication with adults who show interest in what the children are doing, thinking, and feeling;

~ Reasonable and consistent boundaries (rules for behavior) that are understandable and developmentally appropriate;

~ Appreciation that enhances children's sense of self-worth;

~ Coping strategies such as sharing, managing anger, resolving conflict, and dealing with stress to see them through the tough times in life; and

~ Positive role modeling from adults who demonstrate positive self-esteem.